relationship rehab

Trauma-Informed Healing for Relational Patterns & Attachment Wounds

If you keep ending up in the same kinds of relationships despite insight, effort, or “doing the work,” it’s not because you’re failing.

It’s often because your nervous system learned relational rules early on that no longer serve you.

Relationship Rehab is a trauma-informed therapeutic approach to healing relational wounds, breaking old patterns, and building the capacity for secure, healthy connection.

This Is Not Couples Therapy - Relationship Rehab focuses on you.

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Who Relationship Rehab Is For

This work may be a good fit if you notice patterns like these showing up in your relationships:

  • You keep repeating similar relationship dynamics, even when you know better

  • You struggle with people-pleasing, over-functioning, or losing yourself in relationships

  • You feel anxious, avoidant, shut down, or emotionally overwhelmed in close connection

  • You have difficulty setting or maintaining boundaries without guilt or fear

  • You grew up in an emotionally unpredictable, neglectful, or high-conflict environment

  • You feel confident and capable in many areas of life, but relationships feel confusing or destabilizing

  • You intellectually understand your patterns, yet they don’t seem to change

These patterns are not character flaws. They are often adaptive responses shaped by early relational experiences and nervous system survival strategies.

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Relationship Rehab is not about fixing you, blaming your past, or analyzing relationships endlessly.

It is a trauma-informed therapeutic approach that focuses on how early relational experiences shape the nervous system, attachment patterns, boundaries, and emotional responses in connection.

Many relational struggles are not conscious choices. They are survival strategies learned in environments where safety, consistency, or emotional attunement were missing or unpredictable. What once helped you adapt may now be limiting your ability to feel secure, connected, or fully yourself in relationships.

This work helps bring those patterns into awareness and gently retrain the nervous system for healthier, more secure connection.

What Relationship Rehab Actually Means

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This Is Not Couples Therapy

Relationship Rehab focuses on you: your internal relational wiring, emotional responses, boundaries, and attachment patterns, so that all of your relationships can change, not just one.

What We Work On Together

Relationship Rehab focuses on healing relational patterns at their root…where attachment, emotion, and the nervous system intersect. The work is collaborative and tailored to you, rather than following a one-size-fits-all program.

Depending on your goals and history, our work may include:

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Attachment Patterns & Relational Trauma

Understanding how early relationships shaped your expectations, behaviors, and emotional responses in connection.

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Shame, Fear & Survival Strategies


Identify relational survival roles such as people-pleasing, caretaking, or avoidance, and gently loosen their grip.

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Nervous System Regulation in Relationships

Learn to recognize anxiety, shutdown, or reactivity as nervous system responses—and develop tools for regulation in moments of closeness or conflict.

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Repatterning Relational Responses


Create new relational experiences that support safety, agency, and secure connection.

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Boundaries, Assertiveness & Self-Trust


Build the capacity to express needs, say no, tolerate discomfort, and stay connected to yourself in relationships.

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Building Secure Connection


Strengthen your ability to experience closeness, honesty, and mutuality without losing yourself.

How We Work Together

Relationship Rehab is offered through weekly one-on-one therapy sessions and is designed as a focused therapeutic pathway rather than a rigid program.

The pace and length of this work are individualized. Some people come in with a specific relational pattern they want to address, while others engage in deeper, longer-term relational healing. We move in a way that respects your nervous system, history, and current capacity.

The work is collaborative, responsive, and grounded in your real-life relationships.

Approach

Sessions may draw from a range of trauma-informed and relational approaches, including:

  • Attachment-based therapy

  • Nervous system–informed and somatic approaches

  • Experiential and relational exercises

  • Parts-based exploration

  • Communication and boundary skill-building

This work is collaborative and grounded in your real-life relationships, with a focus on individual healing and growth rather than couples or family therapy.

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If you’re ready to begin healing relational patterns and building more secure connection, I invite you to reach out to schedule a consultation.

The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.
— Esther Perel